Often times we as women set goals in every area in of lives except for one area and that's our personal lives. Just like with every other goal that we set ladies, we have to have a plan for our personal relationships as well. Believe it or not men have personal relationship goals just like we do. It's all about how you reach those goals and developing your plan, so that you may achieve your personal relationship goal rather it is commitment or companionship.
Ladies when you date you should have your dating goals in mind before you even put yourself on the market. One of your goals should include what it is that you actually want from a man? You should really consider rather you want to have a commitment or be a companion? There is a BIG difference between the two. Now let's talk about the easier one first and that's companionship. For those of you who don't already know, companionship is when you meet a person that you are attracted to. The two of you may even possibly be like minded and share similar interest or you may be the complete opposite. In other words the two of you may either complete each other or complement one another. After talking a bit you start to get to know each other and then eventually you began to date.
Now the term dating varies from person to person because it means something totally different to each person than what it really means. Dating is simply hanging out and spending time with someone in whom which you are attracted to nothing more, nothing less.
Ladies this means sex or no sex dating does not mean commitment! This may be common knowledge to most and a surprise to some? The women that did not already know this are the ones that are more than likely to get their hearts broken in the process of dating. Rather than enjoying the moment, they are often disappointed with their false expectations of what dating is and should be.
Next, I will briefly discuss what I like to call the 3 M's Monogamy, Merging, and Marriage. These 3 M's are constantly confused and used in the wrong order. Instead of Marriage, Merging, and Monogamy most unmarried women opt for Monogamy, Merging and infinitely, never get to the Marriage part. And if they do, it is well after they having already been playing wifey for many years (in-house sex, kids, and shared finances).
Ladies this epidemic does not have to be, if you do not want it to. If playing wifey is what you want then that's fine but if you want to become a wife then stay tuned for the next blog to see what you can change to reclaim your right and honor to be a wife for life and not just play one at night!
Apostle Magdalene
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